Momma Told Me {Link Party}

Hello  and welcome to the Momma Told Me Link Party at The Evolution of Mom!  We’re so glad you’re here!

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The theme of our party this week is Anything Goes!

Do you have a recipe, a DIY, a helpful hint?  If so, share it!

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You know what to do. Enter your link (up to 4 links) that correspond with this week’s party theme.   Come back again in the next few days as more links are added throughout the week. Links will be posted in random order.  The following week, we will feature a few of our favorites!

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Momma Told Me Link Party

Welcome to the Momma Told Me Link Party at The Evolution of Mom!  We’re so glad to have you!  Feel free to grab our button and share it and join us every Friday for a new link party!

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 Monday

Tuesday

Talented Tuesday

Hump Day Happenings

Wednesday

Pin-Worthy Wednesday

Thursday

On Display Thursday

Friday

Home Matters Linky Party

Pretty Pintastic Party

Foodie Friends Friday

Four Friends

Saturday

Sunday

Snickerdoodle Sunday

No Martyr Here

No Martyr Here

I read a blog the other day called “Why my kids go to bed earlier than yours”  and the content of the blog was fine.  Here is the cliff note version – it’s a moms reasons for putting her kids to bed at 7pm (for the record mine are in bed and asleep by 7:40pm) and while it was a good blog, the thing I took away from it was a comment left by a reader… I was appalled at this lady’s judgement and vitriol against this mom. I’m pasting the entire comment for you to read.

Terrible.
Selfish, immature…
If you need more hours without your children than with them, you shouldn’t have children. If you call being without your children “adult time,” I disagree, that can be anything, but not necessarily adult, an adult can be with their children, that´s real adult. If your kids are in school 8 hours a day, are you really eager to get them in bed? as soon as they come, dinner, bath and bed. Done. so you can be without them again. Terrible.

I know most parents that work need to put their kids in bed early because they need to take them to school or daycare early, i know it, understand it, respect it… But to say that the key to be happy as a mother is to put them in bed early so that you can be by yourself in the evening…. someone please call social services!”

Really?!

Call Social Services because a mom puts her kids to bed at a reasonable hour so they get enough sleep and so she can have some “adult time?”

I’ve also seen this picture floating around Facebook lately…

Call Yourself a ParentWell, if I take both the above blog comment and the image to heart…

I’m a terrible parent and not only that I’m a terrible person. Someone call Social Services!!!

I truly believe that mamas need time. We need social time, alone time and exercise time. We also need kid time.

I love my children with every fiber of my being. I physically created them. I have fought for them, loved on them, cried over them and prayed over them. I have given myself to their upbringing and to their lives in whatever way they need but they do not control me, nor do they run my household.

I am still a woman. I still have desires, goals, and dreams. Do I not get to fulfill mine because I have children? Yes, sometimes my desires are purely selfish. A cup of coffee without screaming children or to curl up and watch a not-child friendly movie with my husband (my 4-year-old is a fearful sort so we need to be really careful what we watch around him) and honestly sometimes to just get out of the house and go for a 3 mile run in the rain.

I have been blessed by a respite program through my husband’s work that allows me time out from being a mom to recharge and renew my batteries because let’s call a spade a spade, I need it. But what about moms without respite? What about those who don’t have the ability to get away and recharge; those that put their kiddos to bed early because maybe the end of the rope has been reached and she’s falling off?

Does this truly require a call to social services?! Come on now. Let’s be realistic about who we are. We are moms, tired by definition. We often live on caffeine and kisses from our children. We put one foot in front of the other every day and we keep moving forward, even when we’re sick, in pain or lonely as all get out. Sometimes what gets us through is the knowledge that bedtime is only 3 hours away. I’m so sick of the attitude that to be a good parent being a parent is ALL you can do.

Taking a break from your kids isn’t being a bad parent; you aren’t failing by wanting time away from your little ones. My friend calls this the oxygen mask argument. You know the pre-flight safety drill, “put the mask on yourself before helping others with theirs”. You cannot help someone if you are dead; physically or emotionally. We need to care for ourselves as much as we care for our children. Protect yourself physically by eating right and exercising in whatever way you can. Protect yourself emotionally by finding something that recharges you and DO IT! Set aside time to do whatever it is that works for you. Be it coffee by a fireplace or going for a run, crochet/knit a hat or a scarf. Put the kids to bed and do whatever you have to in order to make it through tomorrow.

I pray that someday I can include my children in my passion for running. I would love to have them side by side with me in a race. Given the stage of life we are in (and the difficulties that my children have), it’s not possible right now. Are my children neglected while I go for a run? No. They are usually either in school or their daddy is home with them. However, my boys do understand that mommy needs time outs. Some nights they understand that right after dinner; daddy plays with them on the computer or Wii or reads stories, while mommy goes to take a hot bath. Do they understand that mommy does this so she can survive another day or be a better mom? Nope, they don’t care either, they just know that sometimes mommy needs a break.

Bless yourself by giving the gift of grace. It’s critical for life, especially a life that involves your children. Giving up everything you love makes you a shell, your kids cannot fill that shell. I realize that as parents our time with our children is short, they grow up (we grow old), they develop busier and busier lives (we slow down) so why would we give up who we are now? Include your children when you can, but don’t beat yourself up for taking the time you need when you need it.

As I write this, I am counting down the minutes to my respite provider arriving. Today isn’t a fun activity for me, IEP (4-year-old) meeting this morning and parent teacher conference (6-year-old) this afternoon. I have however, packed a book. I have at least 1 hour between the two meetings and I have every intention of parking myself at a coffee shop and reading.

Go ahead, call Social Services!

Kristin

 

Mock Mousse Cupcakes

Following last night’s Tiny TEOM Takeover, we’ve got another one! This time, it’s MY ten year old that’s in the kitchen. This recipe is one that he came up with, and I have to say, it leaves me feeling very inadequate as a baker. These cupcakes are so rich and moist, you’ll want to eat them straight out of the pan!

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Ingredients:

1 3/4 C all purpose flour

1/4 C cornstarch

1 C Ghiradelli cocoa powder

1 1/4 tsp baking powder

3/4 tsp baking soda

1 tsp salt

1 (sm) box instant chocolate pudding mix

2 sticks butter, softened

4 eggs, room temperature

1 1/2 C sour cream

1 tsp vanilla (or other flavor extract)

Preparation:

Preheat oven to 350 degrees (f). Line 3 cupcake tins with paper liners, for a total of 36 cupcakes. In the bowl of a stand mixer (or other large bowl), combine all dry ingredients. Add softened butter, and process, slowly, until the mixture begins to form crumbles. Add eggs, beating on low just until they’re incorporated. Add sour cream and vanilla, process quickly, just until combined.

The mixture should resemble a chocolate mousse, firm batter that holds it’s shape, full of air bubbles, but rich and dense. Scoop the batter evenly into 36 muffin cups. Bake one tray at a time, 15-18 minutes, or just until centers are set. The finished cupcakes will seem slightly undercooked as you remove them from the oven. Place the entire tray onto a wire rack, and allow to cool completely to room temperature. Frost as desired. We opted for a peanut butter chocolate buttercream, topped with toffee pieces.

*Tip: If you have a basic frosting/icing recipe that you love, use it to create fun new flavor combinations! Add extracts, mix ins, cocoa powder, or…my favorite secret weapon: PB2. Have you tried it? It’s dehydrated peanut butter, which makes it crazy easy to add peanut butter flavor to your baking without having to account for the extra oil. Just mix it in with your dry ingredients, and you’ve got a peanut buttery treat without the headache of changing your recipe!

Your turn: What’s your baking secret weapon?

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